I am currently in a lot of pain, I am reaching my limit to when i start to become delirious, I am already crabby and if anyone else was in the house I would be snapping and swearing at them just now.
Chronic severe pain is deliberating, imagine a headache for instance, you take some painkillers and usually feel better, but what would you do if they didn’t help, the pain just got worse and it was still there the next day and the day after and after that….
Between my back problems my stomach problems and now my gallbladder problems it’s been rare that I’ve had a day in the last year that I’ve not been in pain. Occasionally there are days where the pain is at a lesser “normal” level.
But how would you cope if pain was crippling your life, stopping you from carrying out your day to day activities, preventing you from leading a normal life, seeing your friends, going to work, what would you do if it got to the level where you needed help to look after yourself.
You would “cope” because there is no other choice, I don’t feel like I cope, people tell me I am a strong person but I don’t feel strong, I feel weak and worthless and a disappointment.
If you don’t already suffer from mental health problems your more than likely going too, it will be very hard for your friends to understand the impact pain has on your life until they have experienced this for themselves.
If your lucky you will have good friends who will come to visit you and help you out, but there will be many who simply forget about you, stop inviting you to parties or nights out because you’ve had to say no so many times before, little do they know that it’s the thought that counts or that there may just be that one night where you could come and it would do you the world of good. They don’t do it on purpose it’s simply the way the human mind works sadly.
Many people will feel like they are hitting their head off a brick wall with their Dr or hospital, pain is a hard thing to describe, throbbing, stabbing, achy etc can describe the type of pain but there no way for Dr’s to measure the severity of the pain apart from your word.
Sometimes I am made to feel like a wimp, then I have a think about it, i gave birth to 3 children naturally, 2 of them being inductions with a hormone drip to make the contractions harder with just gas and air, I do have a high pain tolerance, so if I say it’s 10/10 then it is 10/10!
People who live with chronic pain and illness have little positivity in their lives at times, so the next time you are having a party or a social gathering please don’t skip past there people, they probably won’t be able to come but the fact that you still thought about them and invited them regardless can do wonders for their self esteem and moral.